Kids banned from hugging…

I was chatting with my young friend G yesterday afternoon and he was incensed.  His teacher had told him that a Queensland primary school had banned hugging:

While the article somewhat tries to balance the notion between ‘good’ and ‘bad’ (unwanted) physical contact, I think the parent who observed “… the ban sexualised an innocent gesture” was spot on.  Do we really want to go down a path where every physical interaction is assumed to be deviant rather than a common means of human bonding?  Do we really want to off-load our neuroses on our children to this extent?  While I can ramble on, I think my friend G and his mate A express it best:

“Dear Mr. Hoppner,

We are writing from a primary school in Melbourne. Our names are A & G and we are 10 years old. We are writing about the hugging ban at William Duncan State School.

I think this rule is unfair for children for the following reasons.

1. If you are upset, what’s better than a hug?

2. Everyone loves a hug at the end of a school day.

3. If the team you are playing with wins, it is best to celebrate by hugging.

I think this rule is bad because children love getting hugged and I think this should be changed immediately.

Yours sincerely,

A & G”


About Julie Rudner

With great excitement for the adventure we were about to go on, my mother would shout out, "We're off to see the Wizard"! It didn't matter if we were going to the shops for milk, the museum or a holiday. My mum focused on the joy of the everyday, knowing that if we engaged with life, we would always find something new and positive. With great animation my dad would explain the workings of things and how to pull things apart, put them back together, and if the situation called for it, make something new. My sister and I were taught to evaluate situations, make our decisions, and reap the consequences (both good and bad). We were encouraged to push our boundaries and not let fear prevent us from pursuing our dreams. Importantly, we learned to pick ourselves up, learn from our 'failures', and use our valuable lessons to build our confidence, independence and strength in ourselves.
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